When I was back in my early to mid twenties, I was learning about Game. I wanted women. I wanted to get laid. Hell, I wanted some sort of relationship with a woman beyond “just being friends.”
So I bought books, CD’s, and DVD’s through the mail. (The internet was around, but was still a somewhat “newish” thing back then.) E-books didn’t exist for the most part and “boot camps” were just starting up. Most of what exists now that guys can easily get a hold of either didn’t exist or was buried deep somewhere on bulletin boards.
Well fast forward a bit during those years, some of what I learned worked to one degree or another, and some of it didn’t. Probably most of it didn’t. My results with women were so-so. The thing that I noticed though was that the more I chased women, the more they ran away. That would pretty much sum up my twenties into my early thirties.
In my early thirties, somebody told me something that I’ll never forget, and it’s probably the best advice I’ve ever been given when it comes to attracting women.
Stop chasing women.
I’ll say it again:
Stop Chasing Women.
Do your own thing. Work on being a better Man. Become the “World’s Most Interesting Man.”
Stop making pussy your number one priority. You enter their frame and their world when you make them the goal.
You have a lot of “notch” counts? Yeah, so? What else have you got going on for you? What else are you doing? What else have you done? What are you doing with your life, besides chasing tail?
The Men I’ve met that are the most successful with women stopped chasing women.
That doesn’t mean they gave up on women and that they hate women. Far from it. They just stopped chasing them and started doing their own thing.
What do you think women will find fascinating about you? The fact that you chase women all the time and have 50 lays under your belt? Or that you’ve visited every state in the United States and can tell them which one of your trips was your most memorable?
What do you think a woman would find more interesting, the fact that you know how to “score,” or that you can tango?
Which do you think would excite a woman more, that you play Call of Duty on a regular basis, or that you go on motorcycle trips every year?
Become more interesting and women will become more interested.
Stop chasing them and they’ll start chasing you.
Take up some dance lessons, learn how to cook a dish (not microwave leftover pizza), go visit other places other than your own house or apartment. Go on a trip. Take up photography. Buy or rent a motorcycle and start riding.
I’ve met more women when I’m out on my motorcycle than anywhere else. Best part is I don’t have to do anything. They come up to me. They want to go for a ride and they ask me to take them for a spin, in front of their boyfriends.
Stop chasing women and do your thing. Learn new skills. Take up new hobbies. Go on adventures.
Become a Man who is interesting to women.
They’ll come up to you. They’ll ask you questions. And you’ll have things to talk about without having to “learn scripts” and use “embedded commands.” You’ll seem like a “natural” because you’ll be a “natural.”
Learn new shit. Do new things. Develop yourself. You’ll find that you have Game. And it will start to flow naturally from you.